Days of My Life

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Monday, June 27, 2005

Weddings

In this summer holiday we were invited to many wedding parties, I went to three different parties two of them were in Baghdad. The first one was for my parents’ cousin; the party was at home many relatives couldn’t come to the party even the very close relatives, because of the absence of safety.
The second one was at home too. It was for my grandparent’s neighbors they are Shiites, I was so excited to see their ceremonials, as this was the first time I attend that kind of weddings. The bride put on a white robe, & put some cardamoms among her toes and fingers, & she put her feet in a pot filled with water & some of ace leaves. They also put in a tray 7 white stuffs like sugar & flour etc , & in an other tray some zestful used for food like saffron & cinnamon etc , they believe that those things will bring her a happy life filled with weal . The bride sat behind a partition & the bridegroom & religious man in the other side of the partition .the religious man said a sentence , the bride& her groom said it after him they repeated that 12 times! Two women who are happy in their marriage were chosen, the first woman spread out sugar on the bride’s head (that was on my grandmother), and the other woman held a candle & stand near the bride (to fill her life with brightness). Although we don’t believe in these beliefs but we had fun & shared them their happiness, especially my grandmother when she kept spreading the sugar over the bride head to sweeten her life too!

The weddings ceremonials are different, among doctrines religious. In Sunnite’s weddings the bride & the bridegroom go to the court to get married &then the party begin , or the party could be in the other day, it is similar to the Christians wedding. The third party was in mosul ,the ceremonials were very nice like the entrance of bride & the groom among the smoke , the cake cut ceremonial , the dowering jewelries ( these jewelries are given to the bride from her husband , his family , also from her family & friends ) .
Anyway, we had fun in all these weddings, no matter what the ceremonials were.
be happy all ...
sunshine

7 Comments:

At 9:17 PM, Blogger Jack B. said...

Thanks for the description of the weddings, Sunshine. I love learning about new things especially about different cultures. I hope you enjoyed yourself.

 
At 5:40 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm glad that you had fun at the weddings. It's interesting to see how cultures' ceremonies isn't it?

Christians don't get married in churches in Iraq? In the U.S. Christians get married in churches and then have a big reception party afterwards. Some may have hour long wedding services if they choose to have a complete mass for part of their ceremony or they can have 20 minute ceremonies which will just include the exchange of vows and rings with some words from the minister and maybe some readings of passages from the Bible. The bride will have at least one woman standing with her which we call the "Maid of Honor) and the groom will have his "Best Man". That would be a very small wedding party. Sometimes they might each have 6 or more people standing up for them. The bride and groom will usually light a "Unity Candle" Where they will each have a candle that they put together to light the one unity candle. This represents that they are two that are coming together as one.
Usually the people that would get married at the courthouse do not want to have religion as part of their wedding.
Legally, all we have to do is have a marriage license and sign it along with witnessess and a judge in order to be married.

Lynn

 
At 2:57 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi
Very nice description :)
Although for the Shiite wedding, when the bride put her feet in water, having sugar speard and a candle lightened and other things..this is not what Shiites believe in, it’s cultural and not religious, just like when the bride put on a white dress, it’s cultural, but not a religious obligation as she could wear what she likes really.
Have a nice day
:)

 
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Blessings, Kim

 
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