Be yourself ...
In the last few months, I noticed a very big difference in my interests even in my personality. The things I was interested in , now I consider it petty , & sometimes I wonder why I considered these things very important, &wonder who was that girl?! . I was so interested about the singers’ news (the Insider), their interviews & the way they dress. I hated the reports programs & the shows I mentioned in my previous post, now I watch two reports every day! I couldn’t imagine that one day I will watch reports, never.
Why was that? Because that was not me, I was trying to be like the girls, to emulate them. I was trying to get friends, but I did not. My
Mother kept telling me to be who I am . I realized what she was talking about when I saw Simon in American Idol , ( but I am not trying to be like Simon , I am more affectionate & friendly with people ). He was different ,& he didn’t mind that .
Last year my mom bought a CD for Julio, when I heard the first song, I wondered if she really likes that kind of singing. Now I listen to Julio all day! Now he is my favorite singer. ! (Sorry Julio)
When I talk with the girls in my age, I feel like I am a stranger among them. But I also feel that I know who I am , & what I really want , & I don’t want to echoing other people anymore.
Now I don’t feel shame or regret about that, I think it is ok to make mistakes, but I feel proud about who I am know.
Be yourself…
Sunshine…
posted by Sunshine @ 11:11 PM
10 Comments:
Sunshine,
Be yourself ALWAYS. You can not have respect for yourself if you are not an honest person. It is very dishonest to pretend to like something just because you want to be with the crowd or you don't want to seem different. What good is it to have people like you just because you like the same thing as them or have the same ideas as them? Congratulations on figuring this out. Some miserable people live their whole lives and never figure this out.
Keep smiling!
Lynn
Indeed..
You can't please the crowds no matter what you do..
be unique, but do not stray to the darker patches of life..
question: I want to add a link to you and your mum on my blog, can I?
Salam to everyone.
Hey Sunshine,
I have the very same problem that you have (Not a problem anymore though).. I always don't fit. It was really hard for me to find friends, I think you noticed that at school, I'm mostly with the same girl. We're not alike, but we get a long at least.. With others, I'm just not interested in whatever they talk about.
Then I realised that I'm the only one with a goal.. I know exactly what I want, and what I want to be.
Be different, why not? You have a personality, that's what matters, you are YOU!
Good for you to grasp onto this at such a young age. I wish I had done that as it would have eliminated alot of pain from bad choices in my younger years. Be yourself as you were created to be!!
Sunshine...I felt the same way when I was your age. It is better to be yourself. It took me time to learn this and while I was learning the were many hurt feelings. But I learned I like myself better by being myself and now that I'm older people like me better too. I'm glad you learned this early. It will save you from being hurt. Also you seem very mature for you age and when you are more mature than your peers that makes it hard to relate to them becuase they don't have the same goals, if any.
I have really enjoyed you blog since finding it. I check it everyday and hope you have posted something new and intresting to read and learn about Iraq and the culture there. Thank you for educating us readers on the way things really are in Iraq.
Remember always be yourself, it's the best there is!
Jennifer
I best part of life is when you have moments like these. You start to understand more about what being you is and start to accept it. It feels like home inside during these moments and is great.
It is never a good idea to try to emulate those around you in order to be popular. I was somewhat like you at your age, in that I had trouble relating to people my own age, and was even considered a bit of a nerd by a lot of my classmates at the time. The popular kids were the ones who were good at sports, laughed off academics, and generally didn't do well academically - I didn't fit into that mold very well.
What was interesting to me was when I went to a high school reunion a few years after I graduated: some of the popular people from high school were working in factories, flipping burgers in fast food restaurants, or working in other dead-end jobs, while I had completed university and was very successful.
It is difficult to realize this when you are in it, but high school is only a few short years of your life, but what you do while you are in high school will determine what you spend the rest of your life doing. If you are strong and don't pay much attention to what your classmates think of you, you can do well, get into university to study the program of your choice, and be a success in the years to come.
And, if you are looking at musicians, the one thing you should recognize is that they don't try to emulate anybody, they are each their own unique persona. So, why not be your own persona as well?
Comments sections like the ones on this blog of yours sunshine is what I want on my own.
Unfortunately I don't have new news about Iraq or information first hand about what it is like there, I only have my opinions and your experiences.
Your blog is interesting and popular,
you have the readers I am targeting.
Well done dear
discover everything about yourself, it is good that way.
Have you read my comment from the other day? I hope so!
This is just one more proof of how mature you are, Sunshine. You have already learned at 14 things it takes other many, many years to learn (and some adults still haven't). When I was your age I desperately wanted to fit in but always felt like the odd man out, like an outsider. Now that I'm older I'm glad I didn't follow the crowd and proud of my individuality. Let others follow the "popular" crowd, I'm proud to be just me.
It took me until my 20s to figure out but you have figured it out already. Trust me, in the end you'll be much happier than those that try to be part of the "crowd".
What a great site »
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